Question: Who is to say which sets of data reveal what we "are really like"?Why is it that what we do alone when no one is watching is always treated as our "true selves" and what we do with people is not, when we probably spend more time with people being in groups than alone?You could be a productive civil engineer, but once it's revealed you like clown porn, now you are Clown Porn Guy, Real You. Besides, I think when we look at all the pairing off that has ever happened in history, most of it has gone down in person. Most of it has gone down with other people, in living rooms, and in communities, and grocery stores and bars, and at work, talking to people in real life, in three dimensions, with their faces and bodies and qualities and flaws. That is not a knock against online dating or its attendant data!

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want when they are at home alone under the covers hiding from complex interactions.

And you know data doesn't lie, just as you know that analogies comparing your worth to bread products are apt and good.

A new book based on relationship data reveals much about the way people interact and view each other, but one graphic from the book's first chapter is generating all the buzz.

Here's how the author describes the salient piece of data regarding how men view women: "From the time you're 22 you'll be less hot than a 20-year-old, based on this data," Christian Rudder said at a recent talk, according to Sure, or at least, found a way to articulate how would-be daters with access to computers feel when they are alone selecting potential candidates from a richly visual, highly optimistic, self-selected pool.

That is to say, to date online is to blue-sky the shit out of your preferences, and humbly scale back from there.

What you like enough to message a person online in a carefully controlled environment means something — sure — it is not nothing.

But everything depends on the red wheelbarrow of that actual date, at which point your apparent desire for someone a third as old as you will get weird if you are hoping to talk about your feelings about …Rudder is quick to note that these preferences don't necessarily mean 50-year-old men are actually dating women who can't legally drink.

"This is just measuring people's opinions, not what they actually go out and do," he told NPR.

"What you see when you actually look at what people do, you see the realism set in. the people they actually have the courage to actually go out and message are a lot older: it's 30, 35-year-old women." Ah, another truth: Men really want 20-year-olds until reality sets in and they have to settle for Talky Mc Age-Appropriate. Here's a thing, and it's nothing against Rudder directly or his work, which I think does have inherent value.